Be Well Moment: A Tool for Emotional Rest

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Hey besties, welcome to this Be Well moment. I'm your host Nia Howard and today I'm inviting you to a gentle
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guided practice, a moment to check in with your emotional world and assess what kind of emotional rest you might
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need right now. Emotional rest is the permission to stop pretending, stop performing, and stop holding everything
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in. It's the space where your feelings can breathe and your inner world can soften. This assessment isn't about
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fixing anything. It's simply about noticing and giving your emotions a safe place to land. So, if you can find a
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comfortable position, maybe let your shoulders loosen. Let's take one slow inhale
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and let it go. Now, let's begin. else. I'm unbreakable.
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So friends, today we brought our self assessment reminding everybody this is the one that
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we carry around with us. But today we actually have a tool. So our tool is a little bit different. The self
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assessment is just kind of with our own hearts and our own minds just kind of picking our own number. But here we actually have because some of us really
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like to have that paper and pen. Or maybe this self assessment can come in handy when maybe you don't feel like you have your person there with you. Or
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maybe you just want to see it in writing. I I like writing. You know, I like my post-it notes and anything else, too. So, we can do it lots of different
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ways. Of course, there'll be people listening and some people that can kind of see us with the with our assessment that we have, but we're also going to have it linked. So, our besties are
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going to have a copy of it as well. So today I thought we could first just do the first part and on our paper we can
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see the zero to five scale. So to yourselves you just might kind of pick think how you're feeling right now in this moment.
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Okay.
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Are do you want us to say it out loud or we just keep it to yourselves today?
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Yeah, I think so. All right. So then the next step we we we have this tool because this is the option to go just a
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little bit deeper. We've put a number to it, but what we find is that putting the words to it are also a wonderful way to
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be able to maybe bring a little bit ease, but more importantly kind of just give ourselves a little bit of a road
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map. So on our self- assessment tool, we have a couple of questions. So the first one, we've already picked kind of our rating. The first question is, what do
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you think is contributing to your feelings to your ratings right now in in this moment? just have a little bit of time to write that down.
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And again, this is something that everyone can do at their own pace and their own time. And here we're just showing you an example.
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Wonderful.
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And maybe we can just kind of work on our own pace too. The second question is to really think about what in the past
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may have been something that helped you when you had this kind of familiar thing going on. So just thinking about how you
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got through it before. What were the things that you might have put into place that helped in a situation similar to this?
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Great. Right. Then on our tool, it's really important to also ask kind of the part that you would try to avoid, right?
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What were the things that didn't help or that even made the situation feel worse or made you feel worse? So those things
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that we want to try to kind of stay away from perhaps in this in this time around.
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Okay. And then just building on this a little bit deeper, what or who helped in this moment? Do we have go-to people?
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Sometimes it's those great pets that we have or maybe it's just even something as simple as remembering a time or a place that we've been that was really helpful.
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Okay. And then the last one, this is just a little bit of a challenge, a self challenge, but what next small step might you take that you could help care
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for yourself in this moment? And reminder to our besties that these small steps, again, they're not big steps. It
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could be something as simple as picking up that water bottle that you've been meaning to drink all day long. Maybe it's writing yourself a kind note. Maybe it's simply to go ahead and get through
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this whole self assessment so you have the chance to look at yourself and look at your feelings. Okay.
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Waiting for everybody here at the table to feel finished. Okay. So, we always like to kind of offer a time to just talk about how that activity was for
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you. don't have to share anything that's on your paper unless you unless you choose to. But how was that for you? Did you like having something to write down?
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Tell me about what you thought about that.
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Yeah. Um I enjoyed the moment just to sit and reflect. I think I've said it before that I'm a just a pushthrougher,
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right? I will block out all the other stuff because I we have work to do, right? And we have things to do. Um, so giving myself some dedicated time to
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actually like check in and see how I'm doing and what next step I can take to either state the same rating or maybe
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decrease my rating a little bit was super beneficial.
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Yeah, I I love practices like this because it makes it forces me to think about the things that I know are are
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help um particularly the like what's helped you in the past was key for me today because there's I know what works
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but sometimes when I am caught up in the exhaustion itself or I'm detaching and feeling emotionally tapped out it's
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really hard for me to remember like those go-tos that reconnect me or that um help me feel better. So having
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dedicated moments to to think and reflect on that can be really helpful for me.
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Yeah, that's great. Um I always call it like a little bit of a road map and again that like you said that time to actually think about the question
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because sometimes if we're just thinking about it without maybe writing it down it's easy to pass over it like skip some of the steps. So thank you all for doing
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that today. And I think too by writing it down, if you had that person that is a trusted person, it might be something that you'd care to share with them and they might kind of know the things that
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you might need next um when you might need something next. So, thank you. And besties, thank you for taking this moment to pause and check in with
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yourself today. Even a few minutes of honesty and stillness can open the door to emotional rest. And we are grateful
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that you shared this space with us. So, if you found this tool beneficial, please see the link to the Be Well self-
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assessment tool. And as we move forward, remember you don't have to hold everything together or carry it all
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alone. Give yourself permission to rest emotionally, even in small ways. You deserve rest. You deserve softness. You
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deserve to feel like yourself. Thank you again for being here. Take care of your heart and take care from your besties.
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else. That's me.
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I'm unbreakable, unstoppable me.
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Lot of things to share.